Emotional Competency

Explore the Logic of Passion


Developing the essential social skills to recognize, interpret, and
respond constructively to emotions in yourself and others.

Emotions are colorful, dramatic, fascinating, and essential dimensions of every person’s experience. These primitive mechanisms send a constant stream of powerful signals that can guide us along the difficult path of survival, or quickly send us off on destructive and painful tangents. How well do you understand these essential and universal signals? Many believe that living life to its fullest requires experiencing and enjoying the full range of human emotions. Yet so many of us are uncomfortable with emotions; we don’t recognize what they are, what they are telling us, how they can be helpful, or the choices we have in how to respond to them. Many of us were taught to ignore, suppress, diminish, or deny our own subtle feelings and vivid passions. Do you know how you feel? What emotions can you recognize and describe? We may have mistakenly learned to overreact to various negative emotions while suppressing positive ones. Unfortunately some of us are prisoners of anger, hate, guilt, sadness, fear, anxiety, shame, humiliation, envy, pain, and violence without understanding what has consumed so much of our lives. Others endure a lonely and sterile existence without experiencing genuine feelings or passionate emotions.

But passion has logic. Emotions obey their own peculiar rules that we can study, understand, listen to, learn from, master, and even enjoy. How well can you interpret what your emotions are telling you? The purpose of these web pages is to help you recognize, interpret, learn from, and make constructive decisions based on the information emotions provide. Constructive and authentic human interactions become possible. Listen carefully to what your emotions are telling you. Don’t ignore them, deny them, or try to drown them out. Sharing these web pages with the difficult people in your life can increase your common understanding and improve your relationships; perhaps even with your nemesis.

How successfully do you respond to emotions in yourself and others? Improving your emotional competency can provide important benefits throughout many aspects of your life. It can increase the satisfaction you have with relationships while it increases your gratification and contentment with the many simple events in your life. It can give you greater insight and help you better understand the motives and actions of yourself and others. You can free yourself from anger, hate, resentment, vengeance, and other destructive emotions that cause hurt and pain. This will reduce much of the stress in your life. You can feel relief and enjoy greater peace-of-mind, autonomy, intimacy, dignity, passion, and wisdom as you engage more deeply with others. Increasing your tolerance and compassion can lead to an authentic optimism and a well-founded confidence, based on your better understanding and interpretation of what-is.

Passion + Reason = Constructive Action. This is the essence of emotional competency.

As your emotional competency increases, you may experience a variety of positive transformations in your life.  Destructive behavior patterns of the past may transform into more constructive behavior as you begin to solve the mysterious puzzle of human interactions and gain a quiet and confident understanding of them. Anxiety may yield to more peaceful, tranquil, and contented feelings as your understanding increases. You may become less isolated as you learn authentic expression and become more engaged with others you now enjoy relating to. You may feel more confident and powerful, and less confused, frustrated, and powerless. Overall you can transform from confused to confident; from clueless to comprehending and enlightened, from fragmented to coherent, from shallow to deep, from cold to passionate, and from oppressed to liberated as you become your authentic self.

A study guide provides a guided tour through the pages of this website.

We hope this information helps increase your emotional competency, enhances your life experience, and contributes to your humanity. Please visit our Emotional Competency group on facebook. We welcome your comments on this work in progress, and invite you to consider these quotations:

Resentment is like taking poison and hoping the other person dies.” ~ St. Augustine

“He who establishes his argument by noise and command shows that his reason is weak.” ~ Michel de Montaigne

“Unexpressed feelings of appreciation and commendation are like undelivered letters.” ~ Michael JosephsonExternal Link

“Lasting peace will come only from a profound understanding of violence.” ~ Leland R. BeaumontExternal Link

“Treat others as you want to be treated.” ~ The Golden Rule, paraphrased from a wide variety of sourcesExternal Link.

“There are paths of progress other than growth. There can be more to life than more.” ~ Leland R. Beaumont

“Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain always cool and unruffled under all circumstances.” ~ Thomas JeffersonExternal Link

“All of history is the quest for dignity.” ~ Leland R. BeaumontExternal Link

“Unresolved emotional pain is the great contagion of our time—of all time.” ~ Marc Ian BaraschExternal Link

Dignity for all before status for any one.” ~ Leland R. BeaumontExternal Link

First-person viewpoint is the fundamental asymmetry of humanity.” ~ Leland R. Beaumont

Passion is the spice of life
 

Peace on Earth, Goodwill Toward All

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